It’s not You, It’s Me

Unless you are one of the fraction of individuals who ended up marrying the first person you dated or belong to a culture that has arranged marriages, odds are pretty good that you had a relationship ended or you ended a relationship.  Sometimes, to lessen the pain of the break up, the kind-hearted person ending the relationship will use the old “It’s not you, it’s me” line.  In their mind or heart, it really is something about you that they can’t deal with, but they think that by taking the blame, it will make the situation easier for you to accept and not leave you wondering what is wrong with you. This rarely works, believe me.

Unfortunately, when nonprofit organizations are communicating with donors, they communicate the same message, it’s not you, it’s us.  They write or talk about how great their organization is, and how wonderful and innovative their programs are, taking the credit for everything they do.  They fail to include their supporters as the key to their success.  When organizations use this mentality in their communications on a regular basis, it will end up in a break up with their donors.

Organizations need to change their tack, and say “it’s not us, it’s you.”  They need to emphasize that all their good work is due to the support of their donors and volunteers.  They could not succeed without the support of those who give them financial support and time.  Those people are your partners and they need to know and be constantly reminded that they are valuable and essential to your organization’s success.  To be successful, use a donor-centered message and let your supporters know that all the good things you do cannot happen without them.  They need to know this and hear it often.

If you want to end the relationship with your supporters, keep using the “it’s not you, it’s us” message.  If you want to keep your donors and grow the relationship with greater engagement, change that message to “it’s not us, it’s you.”

 

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About greatergoodfundraising

Richard Freedlund has been active in the nonprofit sector in a number of ways, both professionally and as a volunteer. He is the founder of Greater Good Fundraising, a business that helps schools and organizations raise money for their programs while accomplishing something positive for the community. After living in Oregon for 27 years, he has returned to his hometown of Rockford, Illinois and hopes to make his mark on the nonprofit sector there. He is the father of a talented jazz musician and the son of philanthropic parents that continue to support multiple causes. To contact Richard for consulting, fundraising, or speaking opportunities, email greatergoodfundraising@gmail.com or reach him on Twitter.com @ggfundraise
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2 Responses to It’s not You, It’s Me

  1. I love the approach… …Remembering and being appreciative of supporters, in CCICs case interns and donors. I hate the phrase “it’s not me it’s you” if I think about it being told to me but the idea/approach that is taken in the blog gives me a sense of relief from remembering the message as a best practice model.

  2. Corey says:

    So true. I believe as consultants as well we need to remind ourselves that we gained success by other peoples’ help. Difficult to do at times as we are judged by our success stories. Great reminder and driving that message home!

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